What Not to Do During a Divorce: Part 2

divorce processAs covered in Part One, the divorce process can be complicated. There are many bases you should cover when it comes to divorce law, but there are also many things to make sure you do not do throughout the entire situation. Read on to learn rules four through eight of what not to do during a divorce.

5. Do not forget taxes during your settlement talks
Many of those who go through a divorce only focus on the larger items in dispute, including the house, the cars, vacation homes, boats, and other expensive items. But before you stake your claim during the disputes, you need to figure out your finances and see if you can actually afford the taxes on these items before you acquire them. If you cannot afford the mortgage taxes on your home, for example, ask for an investment portfolio of the same value or a buyout.

6. Do not settle just to settle
While the divorce process of mediation is long, it is worth it for complete financial security. It is not recommended to settle early just to get it over with, as you may make a mistake that you may come to regret later. In addition, it is important for you and your divorce lawyers to make multiple copies of the divorce papers in case anything negative happens in the future.

7. Do not make your children choose
Parents of one and a half million child divorce each year, and since the average length of marriage that ends in divorce is nine years, it is possible you and your spouse share children together. But it is important to keep your children out of the battle, and to make a conscious effort not to bad mouth the other parent in front of your child. Also, when it comes to child custody, do not make them choose what parent they would like to stay with.

Also, it is not a good idea to bring your new significant other around your child until the divorce is over. Not only will this polarize your soon to be ex-spouse, but it will make your children uncomfortable. Take time introducing them and don't feel like you need to rush, because on average, recently divorced people take three to four years to remarry.

8. Hide things from your divorce attorney
Your divorce attorney is there to help you, so make sure to stay completely honest throughout the entire divorce process. Tell them everything, including any drug use, adultery, or even hidden assets. If you are questioning bringing up anything to your lawyer, chances are you should. Come clean, and your attorney will be best prepared.

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