Divorce is commonplace in the United States. In fact, there is one divorce every 36 seconds, totaling 2,400 divorces per day, 16,800 divorces per week, and 876,000 divorces a year. Researchers estimate these figures to represent 40-50% of all first marriages, and a whopping 60% of second marriages.

It is no secret that the process of dissolving a marriage can be exceptionally difficult. An experienced divorce attorney can help this process go more smoothly, as can these tips for what notto do while filing for divorce.

1. Do not forget to update your will
The simple fact that you and your spouse are divorced does not invalidate your will. If you want to prevent your ex from being entitled to any monies and assets listed in your will, make sure to update it as soon as possible.

2. Do not dismiss mediation
Even if you have decided that your marriage cannot be saved, mediation can be a powerful tool for couples looking to peacefully split their assets. The mediator will help you and your spouse reach a civil agreement, which benefits all parties involved, both in the short term and the long.

3. Do not take it out on your children
The marital problems that led to this point do not include your children, so do not involve them in the divorce process. Children need support during this time, so it's important that both parents keep their children's best interests at heart, and avoid involving them in a tug of war. Reputable child custody lawyers can assist you in making fair and equitable arrangements regarding custody, expenses, and child support. In general, 79% of custodial mothers receive a support award, while only 29% of custodial fathers receive a support award, but of course this may differ in individual cases.

4. Do not go through it alone
A divorce attorney can ensure that you are entitled to the best settlement possible. Their experience in divorce law is invaluable. While some divorces can be conducted on your own, it's not usually advisable, especially if you have children, if there are assets to be divided, or if the split is contentious. And although your attorney is not a friend or a counselor, she or he can be part of your emotional support team during this trying time.

Stay posted for part 2 in this series!