As many individuals can attest, divorce is expensive. Even the smoothest divorces still involve hefty expenses, especially when you take court time into account. There is an alternative, however, and it comes in the form of family mediation.

When people think of divorce, they think of angry and resentful ex-partners who are unwilling to negotiate. And sadly, that is often the case. However, there are plenty of instances where the proceedings are a little more amicable. In these cases, the involved parties are able to come to agreements on aspects of the divorce that include the division of assets/debts, child custody arrangements, and more. This beneficial to both parties as it allows them to hash out these issues on their own terms, rather than relying on the unflinching ruling imposed by the courts.

How are mediations carried out?

Mediation is usually carried out by a neutral third party, someone who is interested in ensuring that couples reach an agreement that works for both parties. A mediator must be fully unbiased and impartial, which is where the assistance of professional legal experts can come into play.

Mediations usually take place in a large room where all parties, including the couple, family members, and attorneys, can be present. Mediations that proceed in this manner are most effective when the involved parties are able to remain civil and cooperative while ensuring that emotions are kept out of the discussions.

Even cases where the couple or other involved parties are unable to remain civil can still be mediated successfully. In these instances, parties are placed in separate rooms and attorneys or other “messengers” go back and forth between the sides and present each one with proposals from the other end. When assessing a proposal, a party has the option of agreeing, disagreeing, or countering with their own proposal.

Mediations who proceed with this type of format have the possibility of becoming lengthy, drawn-out affairs. A mediator might find him or herself endlessly going back and forth between two couples who continue to refuse and counter each other’s proposals. This is why many mediators will place certain time limits, such as dictating that all mediation ends at midnight, etc.

Mediation saves you time and money

Despite its potential for enabling couples to continue bickering via a third party, mediation is still generally seen as a favorable option that carries countless benefits in contrast to litigation. Not only do you save time and money, but mediation allows you and your spouse to work out details on your own terms.

At Rubin and Levavi, P.C., our skilled litigators can assist you with any mediation proceedings, as well as other divorce and child custody matters. Contact us to learn more.